Quiet days

Do I dare say that things felt easier today? The evening routine is pretty settled: mocktails, chat, supper with kids, Harry Potter (reading to kids), washing up, bit of tv, bed. Ok, so it’s not very exciting, but it’s working at the moment, so I’m sticking to it. 21 days in, and I have cocooned myself here in sober safety. Apart from our weekend of guests – oh, and New Year’s Eve, but that was right at the start – we haven’t been out at all. No socialising, no dinners, no drinks parties…no temptations outside the house. It hasn’t been easy changing the routine but I’m getting used to it, and it now feels faintly absurd that I used to quaff wine during the week.

Another mum this morning was listening to me explaining to someone else that I wasn’t drinking alcohol or coffee because of my ongoing tummy problem; and she suddenly piped up, in front of everyone, that her husband remembers pouring me glass after glass of wine at a party, years ago. That wasn’t nice, to be exposed like that, but I guess I deserve it; I used to drink a lot and people noticed.

11 thoughts on “Quiet days”

  1. Hey Annie, great news that things are feeling a little easier, that’s really good to hear. I’m on day 22, and feeling about the same. I do think it helps to lock the doors, and keep ‘safe’, and changing the routine helps too. Enjoy the light that is shining on your dappled path xxx

  2. Which book are you on? I’ve been reading HP to my bunch too – they love it! We’ve just finished the Prisoner of Azkaban.
    Hang in there, Annie. People say stupid thoughtless things. She can’t have realised it’s an issue for you or she most likely would have said nothing. Sounds like you’re doing brilliantly to me. xx

  3. Glad to hear things are getting easier…it only gets better but sobriety has it’s bad days just as your drinking days did too. Wishing you the very best!

  4. I’m glad you’re still hanging in Annie. I haven’t told many people that I’m not drinking and just smile inwardly when people joke about my love of alcohol! I just think ‘if only you knew’ and keep quiet..day 23 for me today. I really feel that I’m getting close now to my earlier stint of 40 days. Some days are hard, especially ones when I really miss my mum but I just keep reminding myself that I have more to gain by not drinking. Look after yourself and I hope your stomach is still healing well x

  5. Good for you Annie! I still get the ‘comments’ about my past drinking too but I love your reaction to it – “I used to drink a lot and people noticed.” So there. Lots of love to you x.

  6. Hi annie
    i honestly think the first 21 days are some ofcthe hardest. You are tracking along nicely. Well done. I heard its not a drink we want but to NOT FEEL THE WAY WE FEEL…..interesting.
    keep going, it DOES GET EASIER and you are noticing that. Remember though there will be some more crap days ahead when you will anchor down and weather it
    hugs from nz
    lisa http://www.thecword-compassion.com

  7. My month is going the same way. Just plodding along doing my sober thing. No parties, no nighttime socializing. Just lunch with girls now and then. It does seem weird that I would quaff wine everyday. Just so unnecessary. Fyi, that lady should shut her face. You’re on a good roll now Annie.

  8. Yes, pretty thoughtless that she would actually mention your drinking, but I’d agree that she probably didn’t even realize it was a problem for you.

    I’m really glad you’re feeling more positive. I think staying home at this stage is a great idea. Sounds as though you are doing great.

  9. don’t you want to just smack that b*tch?
    glad that your cocoon is working for you! I have myself wrapped up in working overtime so by the time I get home the only thing to do is shower, go to bed and get up at 5 am to do it again.

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