No, not yet 50 years old (I’m 44), but 50 years of marriage – my parents’ marriage. And this evening I am going to a big dinner to celebrate it. So early in sobriety, it is not advisable to go to a dinner with champagne, white and red wine, and I think pudding wine, but of course I must go, and I want to go. I am their only child – my brother died when I was 21 – so it will be a moving event.
But the drink?
My intention is to be sober, not only because I am on Day 5 of my challenge, but more because I want to be present for the occasion, to savour every moment. And yet I know it won’t be easy to avoid those twinkling glasses, not to get caught up in the celebratory atmosphere.
Yesterday, schooseslife’s comment on my blog got me thinking in a different way. I’m a bit doom and gloom about sobriety (have you noticed?!?!?), and I think it would be helpful if I made a list of some of the things which I gain through being sober; they may be pretty obvious, but it’s amazing how easily I forget them:
* no hangovers (my hangovers were getting worse recently, and would sometimes last all day)
* more patient with my family (husband and children)
* more likely to get things done in the evening
* healthier food choices (begone Kettle Chips! Well, not completely…)
* fewer opportunities to ring people up while drinking wine and advise them about their failing marriage (this has been a feature the last month or so, and I don’t think my advice is necessarily welcome)
* more likely to exercise
* more likely to write my diary every day (huge gaps recently)
* no need to hide bottles underneath the mustard glass jars in the recycling bin
* less likely to damage my body (though I’ve had a good go at this)
I’m sure I’ll think of more as I walk the dog. I’ll be thinking about my challenge tonight as I head to the dinner; I might even print out this list and take it with me.